Are you breaking up with a narcissist? Even if you have been with your partner for a long time, it may be best to break up depending on the situation you are in. Here are some tips and information about breaking up with a narcissist. But first, who can be characterized as a narcissist?
What is a narcissist?
A narcissist is someone who is excessively interested in his or herself. If this sounds familiar, then you may be involved with someone who is a narcissist. Usually, narcissists in a relationship manipulate, feel entitled, violate boundaries, break rules, interrupt, and take up most of the conversation. Breaking up is never easy, especially if you are breaking up with a narcissist.
Breaking Up With a Narcissist
It is challenging to be in a romantic relationship with a narcissist, but it can be even more difficult to break up. Narcissists can seem charming and charismatic, but things are not always what they seem.
If they are the ones breaking up…
Your world may feel like it is falling apart. It may feel brutal and sudden. People who are narcissists tend to lead you on and do not hesitate to break things off when they are done using you. Although things may feel terrible, know that you will get through this. If your narcissist partner returns, be aware that they have probably found something they need from you. Stay strong no matter how hard things get.
If you are the one breaking up…
Be prepared because it is not going to be easy. Breaking up with a narcissist will be difficult because they will do whatever they can to stop the breakup. They will do things like plead, beg, and even bargain. Saying things like they will change or promising that things will get better, narcissists will do anything to keep the relationship going. Do not listen to their lies or fall for their tricks. They need to respect your decision and you should trust yourself.
How should I approach breaking up with a narcissist?
Honesty is not always the best policy.
When it comes to a narcissist, honesty is not always the best policy. Try not to be too dramatic or too honest with your partner because you need to make the breakup not a big deal. During your conversation with your partner, you should say something like, “I don’t think this is working out for either of us/for the both of us…”
Avoid assigning blame.
Try to avoid assigning blame. When you break up with a narcissist, they can feel defensive because they feel at fault. Keep your reasons for breaking up to yourself and avoid blaming your partner when you talk to your partner.
Be kind to yourself and trust your decision.
You deserve a loving relationship. Be kind to yourself and trust the decision you have made. The only voice you should be listening to belongs to you because you know what you need and want in a romantic relationship. Continue to be positive and try not to let this breakup impact who you are.
Do not pay attention to their manipulations.
When you decide to break up with your partner, find a way to limit your time with them so you are more in control of the conversation. During the breakup, your partner will try and manipulate you so that they regain control. Narcissists can be really convincing, which makes it more difficult to breakup with them. Follow through and do not pay any attention to their manipulations.
What should I do after breaking up with a narcissist?
Have no contact afterwards.
Although it will be difficult, do not have any contact after you break up. It may sound like a simple suggestion, but it is much harder to follow through. One useful tip is to remove your ex and other people you have in common with him or her from social media.
Focus on yourself.
In order to move on and let go, you need to focus on yourself. Now is the time to focus on your needs and demonstrate self-care. Pay attention to what you are feeling, but do not let your emotions take control. Direct your attention to the future instead of the past.
Breaking Up is Never Easy
Of course breakups are never easy, but you may find it more challenging if you are breaking up with a narcissist. If you need further assistance, reach out to those you trust and who care about your well-being.
